Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Without trust there is nothing....

Trust. I want to post a brief thought I have about trust. Many things come to mind when I think of trust.

I could go on and on about different kinds of trust. What I want to talk about is trusting your significant other. Anyone that is in a monogamous relationship has to trust the other for it to work. I don't care if you are straight, homosexual, Bi-sexual, metrosexual, trysexual, whatever...once in a committed relationship you have to trust the other person or it is destined to fail.

That being said I will be married for 11 years on Septemeber 12th. I met my wife on August 2, 1997. That's right bitches, I remember the day. I met my wife 13 years ago on Monday. I knew the day when I woke up but didn't mention it because I knew it wasn't what everone was thinking on Monday morning. We were all thinking about the first day of camp for my little guys and, once there, how horribly upset Pat was. I felt like the world's worst dad on Monday morning hearing his screams as I was pulling away...thank god that he wound up loving it and is having a great time. That all being said, I trust my wife. I don't think anything or anyone would come between us. There are folks that she has known forever that go up to the same area we have a country house (Berkshire stories are coming soon to a blog near you). Recently the couple divorced and the guy started texting my wife. I know I have nothing to worry about as I trust her. I just don't trust him. I tried explaining this to my wife that, being a dude, if you are unattached (not that it matters to everyone but for the sake of the story...) you don't give any time or effort on a female if you didn't think there was the slimmest of possibilities that something could happen. I understand he has a kid and just wants his kid to play with our kids...fine. But the texting and eventual play date at the fair or whatever the mountain people call those things up there is not completely kosher. Call my wife naive but I'm a dude and I know how we think. I know there is no real threat frim this divorced guy that is texting my wife like a high school clown head but it still bothered me a little. It bothered me a little more when after I told her my "guy" thoughts I found out she was having a playdate while I was in the hospital. Don't anyone worry, there is no trouble on the home front, I trust her...I just don't trust any other dude because at the end of the day, guys are guys.

Until next time...