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When can I take my kids to a game?

It's time for some blogging....I'm thinking I will try to post more blogs of smaller length as to not go seasons in between posts.

A quick vent on sports or more specific, NY sports. Anyone who knows me well knows I live for the NY Rangers. For all my pals who hate them, call them the Gaboriks, love the Devils (ugh), Islanders (haha), or Philadelphia (at least you have parking wars)....you are missing out. An original six team, playing in the greatest city in the world. I know we are terribly run and the ticket prices are going up, AGAIN....but I love them. It's a bitter relationship that hasn't had an all night sex session since '94. On the plus side the Flyers and Islanders have had longer cup draughts than us and the Devils, although they had the success of 3 cups in a short amount of time, play in Newark and have only one true fan. Anyway, back to my ticket prices are going up again. Yes I will pay it, we will be mediocre, I will be upset and the cycle continues. Plus, I can't take my kids. I keep wanting to take Patrick to a game but the language during a game would make a sailor blush. I really want to expose my boys to the game and team I love so much but that day is on hold for now.

I thought about taking them to a Yankee game but you mix $12 beers and NY sports you usually get an out of control crowd. Giants games are no better... Maybe I need to go outside my fan zone. Jets? Newark Bears? Both bad options for different reasons. Maybe it might be time to look at the Mets. The team might be consistently mediocre but your $6 ticket will get you a different kind of bleacher creature.

There is plenty of time for me to expose them to this nonsense that I love so dearly. For the time being I will keep taking them to my other favorite place where the only person cursing is me when my bill arrives when I check out.

No way to run a candy store: Happy New Year

No way to run a candy store: Happy New Year: "Hey all... Happy new year! Time to start the year new and make this one better than the last... New year's resolution #1 - Live for today ..."

Happy New Year

Hey all...

Happy new year! Time to start the year new and make this one better than the last...

New year's resolution #1 - Live for today and try to be happy. I have spent a long time dwelling on the negative and I get into the rut of being the master of melancholy. Life is short so this year I am going to try and have as much fun as my bank account will allow. I booked a vacation in April to celabrate my 40th and I got rooms for my wife and kids, my brother from another mother - the axman, the one and only JV and my pops. Three rooms at Disney's Old Key West resort....the possibilites are endless.

I'm kicking around a few ideas for mancation as well and leaning towards a few trips but I have to talk to ax and set something in stone....whatever it is it will be a blast.

I want to hit some festivals, old stomping grounds, go back to the usual Halloween festivities, still waste many nights sitting in MSG hoping for the electricity that only that building can bring, and anything else I can afford and have fun.

The reason for my attempt to live for today and live to be happy? My mom passed away 40 days ago but I'm not counting. It's put me in such a funk. Her passing has changed me. I can't call her and get comfort, advice, anything. If your mom is alive make sure you try and stay tight with her no matter what. You only get one mom and when she is gone it changes you...trust me.


Resoulution #2 - Spend more time with my little group. Friends and family is what life is all about. You know who you are (or you should) and this is the year I make a big effort to see them more. I'm getting an itch for some gaming and over indulgence!


Resolution #3 - Move. Time for a new place. A bigger place. It starts on Sunday with a meeting with Dale.


Resolution #4 - Take care of my back. I hurt it...AGAIN. I plan on continuing my strenuous workouts but I need to maintain a healthy back. Starts tomorrow with an appointment with the best spine doctor around.


Resolution #5 - Be a better dad. I love my 2 boys but I need to put more time into their development. They look at me as the guy that takes them to Disney 3 or 4 times per year, gets them all the video games and toys they want but I want them to form a better bond with me as they get older. I love my dad and he worked multiple jobs and did what he had to do to provide for us and get me what I wanted but we never formed a tight emotional bond. I'm going to try my best to do that with my boys.


Resolution #6 (yes that's right 6...if I make enough of them law of averages say I will succeed in some, right?) - Get more satisfaction out of my job. I need to rejuvinate myself at the office. I'm going to be at my current job for 4 years come March 12th and it's time to recharge the batteries. Like I said in the beginning of this life is too short not to be happy and I need to find a way to get that satisfaction out of my job again. I have come to realize that I'll never have the warm and fuzzy environment that I had at my last place of employment but there are great folks where I am now and good people on my team and I need to reset the game for 2011, adjust to all the changes that I had endured at work in the 2nd half of the year or make drastic changes.

This is the year I start enjoying all aspects of life...here's to 2011.

Be well....and stick to your resolutions!

Thanksgiving, Facebook friends, cougars, ink...etc.

It's been a while since I felt the urge to throw some thoughts out there but I needed to make some space between the ears so for the next couple minutes keep reading all the crap that is going into the brain recycle bin.

First - Thanksgiving, my most hated of all holidays, is upon me and I must celebrate it. Why? Because I have 2 little boys that have been brainwashed my the Hoboken school system that this is a great day. My oldest boy came home talking about the first Indian and blah blah blah...also had a picture he made of a turkey leg with blue pants and an indian headress on with the sentence next to it "I am thankful for me because I am good. Patrick". I have a whole vision of Thanksgiving but as a dad I will not rain on the fun. As long as there is football, grub, and few comforts to ease the pain all will good.

Second - My wife deep sixed her Facebook account. I'm impressed as I think she was addicted to it like I was to another computer program and I know it is difficult to step away. Her reasoning brings me back to one of my posts from over the summer. I was bent out of shape because she was hurt by some friends all getting together and not asking her...over and over. Quick flashback - I went on to explain that only a few of us are blessed enough to have real friends (friends help you move, real friends help you move a body) and yes I am happy to have one of those. Anyway, she dropped Facebook because the holidays are approaching and she didn't want to see all the pictures from the parties that she (we) won't be invited to. Wasn't the only reason, there were lots of folks on her page that she really didn't care about...ya know the facebook friends that you knew another lifetime ago, or that random one nighter when you had that layover flight in Houston, or that guy you had to report to a few jobs ago that you can buy and sell now...etc. etc. Sigh...getting back on track, she is right on with that thought pattern...that's why I love the wife. We think alike. We just don't give a fuck. Pefect pair...don't get me wrong there are people I (we) do care for and about and the people in the inner circle know we are the most loyal of commrades but as far as the rest of the world well you give what you get. I told her over the summer and I'm telling her again...you know the people that mean the most to you so make time for them - it will make you happier in the long run. Hey Axman, if you're reading this - Martinis, cigars, Bobby Flay's steakhouse and some baccarat on Saturday night, can't wait.

Third - I witnessed some big time cougartown stuff a few days ago. Listen, I'm not the moral police but if you are married and my kids know your kid(s), why make it so obvious that you are going to cheat on your significant other with someone half your age. Do what you like by all means but don't make it so obvious where people openly talk about it. It makes you look trashy and that's ok but if your kid finds out then you're just a douche. Get a divorce if you're unhappy but tell the other person of your need to end it before moving on. Trust me,in the long run it will be better for all parties involved.

Fourth - December 10th - getting my full tattoo sleeve worked on by one of the most kick ass ink slingers on the east coast. If you ever wanted some ink go here...I go to Cisco but you can't go wrong with any artist here.

Finally - If you are religeous, spiritual, human, whatever...positive thoughts are needed for mom. She is fighting hard and is in the final rounds and all the positive thoughts, energy, and prayers help. Tell the people closest to you that they are loved and important every day because life is so short.

Till next time...

Back from a hiatus with a back problem, roids at WDW and waterclub withdrawl....

Hi all. I've been out of the loop for a while...hurt my back, BAD. It's been 30 days today and it's still bad. I hurt the back exercising and then went on vaction to one of my favorite places. Probably not of of my best ideas but thanks to the help of a great spine doctor and meds, I made it through. The trip was fun and I was roided out for a few days which resulted in me getting a tad too physical during a game of pool basketball where I decided to take it to the visiting 12 year old from central america, but all in all a great time. I had one other moment where I had the misfortune to losing my mind on a kid that kept splashing out of control at my 2 little guys. My boys are out of control too but this was at the point where it was ridiculous. Of course I never interject nicely and the boys dad came over to see what was wrong and I just told him that the splashing by his kid was insane. Once I had my glasses on and I COULD SEE THE KID I realized I need to get contacts. No wonder dad was annoyed with me. Sigh...Once the roids were out of my system and the pain came back I didn't have enough energy to start something with the guy spending too much time in the fancy cars when you get off of test track. Yeah my 6 year old wants to get in there for a second, but you go ahead and finish your nap. All in all though a great trip....looking forward to going back for halloween and taking the kids on the cruise for the frst time. Anyway...

This wasn't the first time I have made a social public faux paus. I accidentally ripped off a man's prosthetic leg on the m42 crosstown bus. I got caught on it (unknowingly) and ripped it so hard that before it fell to floor, so did he. I left my $2.25 fare and dignity on that bus and wound up walking. Funny thing is the next day I stopped for a bagel In grand central and when it was my turn to order this borat impersonator called out, "next, sir...ah...ma'am? Sir? next". I started yelling at him like I had turrets. You can only imagine the explatives and me ready to beat him to death when some woman said to me, "hey tough guy, he's blind". Needless to say I ate the cafe when I got to work.

On a good note I got to hang with the Ax last weekend. Good place, Good times, a long show but always a good time when me and the ax get together. I have to get him to move up wth way...although that could start a bad chain reation. I'm joking of course...but the appartment next to mine is for sale.

Anyway, I'm sorry for the hiatus and thank you to the few people that emailed me looking for a new post. I'm glad that a few folks read this. Today I had a procedure in another step to fix my back. This is hopefully a step in the right direction and my road back to bootcamp. I think my days of going on certain amusement park rides might be over and possibly derailed a dream or two but it could be worse.

I want to leave you with a song I stumbled accross this week. It's EXTEMELY rare I like any music written since the mid 90's but I found this amusing and catchy (I've always had a soft spot for him and Gnarles Barkley)...enjoy.

Until next time...

Without trust there is nothing....

Trust. I want to post a brief thought I have about trust. Many things come to mind when I think of trust.

• Trust your instincts
• In God We Trust
• A Megadeath song
• Trust Funds

I could go on and on about different kinds of trust. What I want to talk about is trusting your significant other. Anyone that is in a monogamous relationship has to trust the other for it to work. I don't care if you are straight, homosexual, Bi-sexual, metrosexual, trysexual, whatever...once in a committed relationship you have to trust the other person or it is destined to fail.

That being said I will be married for 11 years on Septemeber 12th. I met my wife on August 2, 1997. That's right bitches, I remember the day. I met my wife 13 years ago on Monday. I knew the day when I woke up but didn't mention it because I knew it wasn't what everone was thinking on Monday morning. We were all thinking about the first day of camp for my little guys and, once there, how horribly upset Pat was. I felt like the world's worst dad on Monday morning hearing his screams as I was pulling away...thank god that he wound up loving it and is having a great time. That all being said, I trust my wife. I don't think anything or anyone would come between us. There are folks that she has known forever that go up to the same area we have a country house (Berkshire stories are coming soon to a blog near you). Recently the couple divorced and the guy started texting my wife. I know I have nothing to worry about as I trust her. I just don't trust him. I tried explaining this to my wife that, being a dude, if you are unattached (not that it matters to everyone but for the sake of the story...) you don't give any time or effort on a female if you didn't think there was the slimmest of possibilities that something could happen. I understand he has a kid and just wants his kid to play with our kids...fine. But the texting and eventual play date at the fair or whatever the mountain people call those things up there is not completely kosher. Call my wife naive but I'm a dude and I know how we think. I know there is no real threat frim this divorced guy that is texting my wife like a high school clown head but it still bothered me a little. It bothered me a little more when after I told her my "guy" thoughts I found out she was having a playdate while I was in the hospital. Don't anyone worry, there is no trouble on the home front, I trust her...I just don't trust any other dude because at the end of the day, guys are guys.

Until next time...